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I felt really bad about my weight after both miscarriages, but it's not really the most important thing now. If food makes you feel better, now is the time to use it. Sad but true. Ice cream and chocolate is what we use round here.

It is rather a lot like a breakup: people will say to you, there are other fish in the sea, you will have a baby, there are others waiting for you. But you want THIS one.


Freaking pizza place. I'd like to call them and tell them just what they did....

Continuing to send hugs and support and sympathy-- this sucks....


I just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you. I am so sorry you have to go through this.
Oh, and I gained a huge amount of weight after my last miscarriage, most of it macaroni and cheese. Whatever helps.


So did anyone ever tell you what was going on? I'm assuming there was no infection, right? I'm so sorry you had yet another ordeal to go through-- and your pizza place let you down!! Sometimes it's the little things that really matter.


What a frustrating waste of time at A&E. It sounds like they could have put you and H through a whole lot less to come to the conclusion that you didn't have an infection.

I'm glad that your body seems like it is starting to heal. But you will continue to cry a lot, sometimes at odd times. And then you won't. And then you will again. Oh, this is hard hard stuff. Hang in there, friend.


The solace of good muffins. A small milestone on the road to putting this experience behind you.

No point getting worried about the weight thing at this point - you are such a positive person I feel sure you will deal with it effectively when you are strong enough. In the meantime be kind to yourself.

Still thinking of you trying to get through this.


The inconsolable crying for less than meaningful reasons (though the early closing from the pizza place would piss me off regardless of my emotional state) was a very common occurrence for me even months after my miscarriage.

As for the weight issue, a week after the miscarriage, I dropped several pounds and wryly told my husband that this was the most effective weight loss plan I'd ever experienced. But soon after, I gained all the weight and then some, which just added to my misery. Now I realize I should have given myself a break, because all that mattered at that point was finding a way to cope with the grief.


That A&E experience sounds horrid. I would have cried about the pizza part too -- you clutch at little comforts on days like those, and when they are yanked away too, it all comes rushing in.

Weight gain after miscarriage is very depressing (what isn't?) but I think it's wonderful that you are cooking. That's very good for the soul, unlike pigging out on potato chips, which (furtive glance around) somebody I know did.

Thinking of you and hoping work (and traveling) is bearable.


Did you ever hear anything from your GP? That's too bad that you spent so much time waiting around just to be told to go home at the end of the night.

After my miscarriage I first lost weight and then gained a bunch. I think it's normal, it's a stressful time. I will be thinking of you.


Not much to say, apart from, I am sorry for your grief, and wish you strength in the days ahead. And I'm glad your husband is looking after you.

Lut C.

Mmmmm, muffins!
I agree this is not the best time to worry about dieting. Comfort food is just the thing.

I'm glad you're feeling better physically.


It's funny how one can hold oneself together through the worst of what the world can throw at you - but then some small petty frustration can rip that all to shreds. Stupid pizza place.

Don't feel guilty for whatever you're doing right now that's making you feel better. You're in my thoughts.

(And I'm curious about the conference when you feel up to telling us about that)


What a horrible night at the A&E. I hope this is the end of your physical nightmare. I know the emotional side will take much longer.

Wish I could have sent you a pizza.

Mary Ellen

I am sorry that you had such a bad experience at the A&E. Stupid pizza place!

I am glad that you are feeling better physically. I hope that the emotional pain starts to subside soon as well. You are in my thoughts. Hugs!


Pissed off at the fng pizza place. that is way too early to be calling it a night and especially that night. Hope the traveling isn't too terribly rough. Thinking of you, T.



Selfish pizza nazis. Hope they suffer from a dearth of good food late at night and soon.

I'm glad you're starting to feel better physically. But I wish more that your broken heart would feel better, too. You're in my thoughts.


I hope you found a lot of good recipes while you were surfing. If ever there's a time for comfort food, this is it. Dealing with the weight can come later. You're in my thoughts and prayers.


I'm glad to hear the physical pain has subsided some. Emotional pain will take much, much longer.

Take all the time you need to grieve and worry about your diet down the road. Comfort food has that name for a reason... your muffins sounds fab and I'm sure hubby appreciated them, too!!


Stupid pizza place.

I felt really bad about my weight too after my loss...

Be gentle with yourself right now, you have a lot on your plate - no pun intended.

Hugs. I have thought of you often in the past few days. I am hoping you find some peace and healing.

Ellen K.

Oh, Thalia, I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. Go for the comfort food... sometimes cooking can be very therapeutic. ((hugs))


Thalia--just want to say that I am constantly thinking of you. I hope you are feeling better.


It must feel like the whole world is conspiring against you. I wish you weren't going through this, dear Thalia. But you are a survivor. Thinking of you...


You are surviving - I know it sounds trite, but you will get through this, and each week will be a tiny bit better.

I think of you often, and wish so much this hadn't happened. Sending ((hugs))


Just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I think of you often and pray that you are able to heal and find some peace in teh weeks and months to come. xoxoxo


I am so sorry. There is nothing anyone can say to make it better, but know that I am thinking of you. The only thing that heals it is time.


How dare they deny you comfort food in your time of need?

On a serious note: I'm so sorry. What more is there to say?


Sometimes pizza is the one thing you have to hold on to - it's funny - shouldn't pizza guys know that? I'm so sorry. I hope you get some answers from Dr. Candor on the 4th.


Glad you are feeling a little better but I'm sure it will take a long time for you to heal. It's been a sad and frustrating time for you, but look at all the support you have! I'll be interested to read what your doctor has to say.


Thalia- I just wanted to stop by and let you know that I'm thinking of you! I'm sorry you are going through such a rough time right now, I truly am.


I'm most annoyed with the pizza people. Pizza could have helped inordinately. I'm sending you all sorts of loving thoughts.


I would have cried about the pizza with you. You certainly don't need any disapointments in your life right now, no matter how minor.
You've been in my thoughts. I hope that time can begin to heal your heart.


Awww, Thalia, I'm so sorry that on top of your horrible experience at the A&E, you were denied your pizza! That just seems like adding insult to injury!!

Did you ever hear back about any of the results? I hope that all the tests came back normal, and that there was no infection.

I have to say your mention of going out for kebabs brought a smile to my face though. I'm Canadian, but 5 years ago I lived in London for one year with a couple of my friends. I still miss lots of things about London, and have kept a lot of British slang and terms that even today people look at me a bit sideways when I say them. It's kind of funny, actually! :)

I also hope that your appt on July 4th brings you some answers. I look forward to an update when you get a chance.

Take care of yourself


Thinking of you and wishing you well.


What an ordeal. I hope the pain has eased.

Next to IF blogs, food blogs are my favorite. Here's one I particularly like http://orangette.blogspot.com/. The latest recipe for Nutmeg Doughnut Muffins looks scrumptious ... although probably not particulalry figure-friendly.


Glad you are feeling some what better physically. Damn pizza place, I dare they close!


Continuing to think about you, Thalia. And I have to say-- FOOD blogs! (hear the chorus of angels on high?) Now why didn't I think of that?? I love to cook! Thanks for the tip. :)

And I hope your healing is speedy and much less painful than what you've had to experience so far.


Sending lots of hugs your way!! xx


Of course you're still crying. And you'll keep crying for quite some time, but the darkness will pass.

Don't fret over your body. You're going through too much right now. Be gentle with yourself.


Its still very new Thalia.. this will take time to heal.. take each day by day, worry about the weight after. lookfor comfort in the small things that have always made you smile. ((hugs)) we understand


Sending you strength, and hoping you can find some peace in the days ahead. I think of you daily.


Hi Thalia, I never heard about Charlie and Lola before. We've been thinking long about Lotti and Thomas(R's mum's favorite stepmum) and Luca and Ruby, but in the end we really liked Charlie, but that was our new dog's name. So we are renaming the dog Scooter now. Not Sissles! Charlieandlola.com Waht a very cute illustrations. And I am so happy it's not a hardcore porn site :-)
I've been thinking about your miscarriage, I feel so sad about it. It hurts so bad, I know. I don't want to be the eternal optimist, but I do think it's good news that you managed to get that pink line. Don't give up for now. I hope you and H can cope with your loss and grief.


Hi Thalia. I'm sending you a big hug and please know that we're all thinking of you and hoping you find comfort and peace of mind.



Do whatever gets you through this. If you need comfort - eat. If you feel better with the illusion of control that controlling your weight brings - diet and exercise. Personally, I always ate...



I'm so sorry for what you are going through, but I have to tell you I'm so sorry to hear about the pizza. I know it sounds strange that I feel for you for that, but honestly I know where you're coming from. It's just so sad that after a day full of waiting and disappointment and frustration and the one thing that would make everything a little more bearable, the thing you have in your mind as your reward for all you have to endure and they're closed! That's a break down moment if I ever heard one.

And thanks for stopping by my blog and for your nice comments and support! It means a lot.


Thalia, I have been out of the blogosphere for a while and was so saddened when I finally checked in to hear of your loss. I am so sorry. Hang in there, you are in my thoughts.

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