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Tuesday, 30 May 2006


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Oh, Thalia. I'm so sorry about this. I'm still bull-headedly going to proceed with hoping my head off, though, that this is one of those legendary "little embryo that could" scenarios.

Sending you a big hug and a heartfelt "fuck". Wishing I could distract you somehow, and knowing that that's the last thing that's possible at the moment.


I'm so sorry, I can't think of anything else to say.


Oh Thalia. I am so so sorry to read your news. I am thinking of you and am really deeply sad that this didn't work out for you (as it seems right now).

Many hugs!


nonononono oh Thalia I am so sorry, I can't put into words adequately just how much I hope things turn around, I don't want to get all perky on you, I just want it to be all ok for you.

thinking of you.


Oh my God. I am so sorry. Not at all what you expected to hear. You are in my thoughts today.


I am so terribly sorry. This just sucks. You're in my thoughts.


It is awful when you appear to have your darkest thoughts made real and this must be the absolutely most awful. I am still hanging in there for you and waiting for next week's scan. I know you will be feeling that things are as black as they can be but please try to hang on. We are here with you and thinking good thoughts for you, sweetie.


I feel so bad because I know exactly how you feel. I'm sorry.


Nnnoooooo...... I just don't know what to say, other than hope is still there.
Thinking of you babe...... x


Crap. I'm so sorry.


Grrr, I am so sorry.

Mary Scarlet

Thalia, I am so sorry. This is heartbreaking


Thalia, I don't know what to say. I have a very good idea how you feel, and I am so sorry that you have to go through this.


damn damn damn....I am so sorry - my thoughts and prayers are with you today.


Thalia- I will be thinking about you. I hate how hard this all has to be.

Robber Barren

Oh, Thalia, I'm so, so sorry you have to deal with this. Please know that my heart is with you.


Not fair, not fair, not fair. I'm so sorry that you're going through this.


Oh, Thalia. I wish there were something we could do to distract you while you wait for next week's scan. It's not over yet, it really isn't. But that just makes it pure torture. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.

Cat, Galloping

oh thalia, i'm sorry.


I'm so sorry. I've been there several times, and words are so inadequate. I hope you get some miraculous news next week, though I know it's hard to even think in those terms.


No, no no....I am so sorry to hear this. :-( Sending you a big hug.


Even though my heart hurts right now, I still can't help but stubbornly hope that all will be well at your next scan. Thinking of you...


Oh Thalia,
I'm so incredibly sorry. But it's not over yet. The waiting and the hoping is excrutiating, but please try and hang in there. I'm rooting for you.


Oh Thalia, I'm so sorry. I have no idea how dates could be wrong in an IVF pregnancy. Since you were going to google anyway...at six weeks we did see a fetal pole, but only one. By seven weeks we could see both, but B was still a week behind. He didn't catch up until about 12 weeks and is still smaller. I've got everything crossed for you.

Carrie P

Dear Thalia. I was nervous on your behalf about this scan, not because of anything you posted (damn, those betas were excellent), but because my own history has taught me not to trust that early pregnancy will develop as it should. I'm so sorry that you didn't get what you came for today.

I have to say that I wouldn't have been able to find a shred of kindness in myself to spare the feelings of that sonographer. You are a better person than I am.


Oh, no! I am so sorry that your little guy doesn't seem to have made it. Fuck.


Oh no, Thalia. I'm so horribly sorry. What an awful thing to happen after such a long road. You're in my thoughts.


Oh Thalia--I've been thinking about you since yesterday since I know how scared you were to go to the ultrasound. I am still hoping and praying that this is not over. Hang in there..I know the waiting will not be easy. Hugs!


I'm so, so sorry Thalia. Take care of yourself.


Oh, Thalia. I am so very sorry. Sorry doesn't even cut it actually. This is very close to what happened to me last time around, and it is pure hell. Please know that you're in my thoughts. Sending tons of love your way.

fisher queen

I really hope that this embryo is just slow to start. I don't even want to say I'm sorry because I'm hoping so hard.


Oh God, I hope that somehow there's still a way.

My thoughts are with you, Thalia. I know it must be so hard.


Oh no, no. Did the doctor talk to you or just the sonographer? I'm hoping she effed up.


Oh good God, no. I am so sorry, Thalia. I don't have any words. You and H are in my thoughts.

Carla Hinkle

I am so very sorry. But I am also going to keep a small flicker of hope alive, just in case. All of your friends inside the computer are thinking of you now.


Dont lose hope!! You are early-

At 4 weeks of gestational age (2 weeks post conception), your doctor should only be able to see a thickened uterine stripe.

At 5 weeks of gestational age (3 weeks post conception), the presence of a gestational sac and possibly a yolk sac are seen.

At 6 weeks of gestational age (4 weeks post conception), your doctor should be able to see a gestational sac and a yolk sac. Fifty percent of the time, a fetal pole will be seen with cardiac activity.

At 7 weeks of gestational age (5 weeks post conception), ninety percent of the time, a fetal pole will be seen with cardiac activity.

At 8 weeks of gestational age (6 weeks post conception), your doctor should see all of the previously mentioned structures, including a fetal pole with cardiac activity. The fetal pole should be measuring appropriately for the gestational age and show appropriate interval growth between sonograms.

At 9 weeks of gestational age (7 weeks post conception), your doctor should see all of the previously mentioned structures, along with increased detail in the fetal pole. There should now be evidence of a head, trunk, and extremities.


Oh no no no. Thalia, I am so sorry that you are going through this. Holding on to a flicker of hope for next week's scan.


No!! I'm so sorry, Thalia. I wish there was something I could do. You are in my prayers. *hugs*


I second what Catherine said. While it's easy to despair, and it's the choice that those in IVF turn to the most as it's the one we know the most, you have another scan next week. I know a week is a long time in beta land, and all I can say is: we're here.


I'm very sorry you're having to go through this. The waiting and wondering is so difficult. I'm still holding out hope for next week's scan. You and H are in my thoughts.


I am praying for a good scan next week.

Take care and I will be thinking of you.


Oh Thalia, I am so very, very sorry. I know there is still hope, and I am hoping and prayign like crazy over here, but I also know the despair you feel right now. I am thinking of you.


Oh, God. Hoping, so hard, that your next scan reveals more.


I'm clinging oh-so-desperately to Catherine's post - still hoping this turns out well. I'm crossing everything, including everything on Ben.Please hang in there; you're in my thoughts, and everyone is really pulling for you. Still hoping...


So sorry, Thalia that things are as they are - waiting sucks. Here's hoping next week's scan brings good news.


One more note, here is the sig of a friend online...please continue you meds and hold out hope!

IVF April 06:
4/10 ER,4/13, 3dt
4/24 Beta #1: 37,
4/27 Beta #2: 100,
5/3 Beta #3: 520,
5/9 Beta #4: 3079 and u/s 6w1d no heartbeat
5/18 7w3d u/s heatbeat 143 bpm
5/30 9w1d u/s heartbeat 168 bpm!


This must be so stressful for you now. Don't give up hope. I've read that u/s can measure +/- one week, it's not exact science. I know the next 7 days are going to be hard. Thinking of you :)


Thalia - you know I have just gone through the worst case scenario for what you might be facing and so I am rather up to date on google U.
I think it's smart to prepare yourself for what might be the worst but you are still too early for the ultrasound to be definitive. There is some variance on how quickly embryos develop (even viable ones) and there is no guarantee that a fetal pole would be 4 mm at 6 weeks, one day. If the gestational sac was empty - that would be pretty much final but that isn't the case for you.
I hate limbo land.
I have been thinking about you a lot but I haven't commented as I sometimes feel like the "kiss of miscarriage". My situation isn't what I want to remind people of during the first few weeks of a pregnancy.
Please hang in there (you don't have to hope, we will do that for you). I do know how hard this all is.

chee chee

Oh no, this sucks so much. I read a few of the other comments and I am holding out hope for a good outcome on the next scan.


Thalia, I am hoping as much as I can that your news will be better after your next scan. I am wishing, praying and hoping for you!

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