$5 consultation needed

So, I'm trying not to do this. In fact, I was giving myself a talking to so loudly this afternoon that H heard me from 2 floors up and came down to see what was wrong. But I'm having this thing about needing to pee all the time. Usually I have this anyway, because I drink so much water. But today I haven't been drinking much, and I'm running to the loo every hour or so. My temperatures are quite high (although I've also been using a dab once a day of that 'natural progesterone cream', so that might explain it), and right now I'm feeling slightly nauseous and very tired. It's 9dpo.

So the advice I require, is test or don't test tomorrow. I've been vowing not to test as I've never had a good experience with it. I'm getting on a plane tomorrow and am not back in the UK til Wednesday evening. So I was planning to test on Thursday, which would be 13dpo and my longest luteal phase ever, if I still hadn't bled by then (although again, likely to be affected by the progesterone cream?). However, H is also away this week and isn't back til Friday so I'm tempted to test tomorrow and...

...that's where my plan falls down. Because I can't help thinking that it will most likely be negative, and then I'll be miserable, and he'll be miserable, and we'll both be miserable apart all week.

*Sigh*. I think I'll remember my vows to myself, and just not test. It's not going to help much either way. What would you do?

Comments

[MsPrufrock]

Hmm...If there ever was a good answer to this question it would be worth much more than $5.

Amazingly, I generally have the self-restraint to not test too early, which 9dpo would be for me. I would say to go ahead and test so you are not too preoccupied while you and H are away on your respective trips. Yes, it may be negative, but I would prefer to have an answer, any answer, rather than the inability to focus on anything else.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

[Suz]

After my terrible bout with testing where I kept getting negative tests, only to receive a positive beta, I would say to avoid it if there is any way possible to do so! Even there is a positive, it's not quite believable because it STILL has to be confirmed by the beta.

Resistance may be futile, but I would give it a shot.

[Amanda]

I'd wait until 13dpo. That's when I always start testing with my IVF cycles. Then I know for sure that I'm getting a reliable result. Plus, then you'll hopefully avoid the miserable factor during your trip.

[Jenn]

I'm a pee stickaholic, so I doubt I would be able to hold off, but I think you should. 10dpo is likely to be negative no matter what and you'll just torture yourself.

[MsPrufrock]

Clearly I am in the minority. This is why I never weigh in on these things...

[heleen]

Hi Thalia,
I promised myself: no more negative tests. I keep one in the bathroom in case I am absolutely sure. I have been tempted though... But I promised myself this will be the ONE!

Good luck with your IVF (that is if you still need it:). The wait seems long, but you'll be surprised how quickly it willl be christmas.

PS Thanks for listing me.

[Larisa]

What would I *do* or what will I tell you to do. I will tell you NOT to test. I'm not saying you couldn't be pg, but 10dpo is a little early anyway. Wait!

I'm not going to say what *I* would end up doing.

[zhl]

My assvice is wait. It's too early, and you need your wits about you for your meeting. A confirmed negative is worse for me than a possible positive. And that's just my two cents (five dollars seems too much for assvice like that).

[kate #2]

I'd say "Don't do it!" I have heard of so many false negatives when you do it too soon and may cause unnecessary sadness. Just hang in there....you are so close!

[Liz]

Oh the dreaded question...to test or not to test. I know it's hard but wait...it is still too early.

[Flicka]

This is what I like to do: test way too early, recieve a negative, weep up a storm and then refuse to believe it. Repeat twice daily until either a positive or your period shows up. If your period shows, bake and consume an entire tray of brownies. If you get a positive, make sure that everyone, everywhere knows within 24 hours (don't forget to call Singapore.)

[OvaGirl]

The problem is, if you keep worrying about it and don't test, you'll be worried anyway. (does that make sense). I think I would agree to test. Then you'll have an answer and you can concentrate on the journey etc. But then....I'd probably test again in a few days time, to be sure. So that's having your pee stick and eating it too really. And that's no help to anyone.

[mm]

If it were me, I'd test. But I'd also advise you to do as I say, not as I do.

[PJ]

Personally, I'm a tester. So if I were in your situation I would do it. But since you've laid out the consequences you would deal with and a negative would be difficult for you, I say don't test. But if you do, please keep repeating to yourself "it's still very early."

Good luck with whatever you decide.

[Lola]

God, my brain's shut down. I read your post adn was instantly taken back to that shall I/shan't I thing which more often than not ended up with my peeing on several white sticks because I invariably tested too early. And now I've come over all verklempt.

Whatever you decide, good luck! Personally, Flicka's advice sounds sensible!

[chee chee]

I was never a tester. But if you do decide to test, I think waiting until Wednesday is a good idea.

[elle]

I wouldn't test. I tested 9-11 dpo last cycle (all bfn) & went absolutely apeshit over it. This time I waited til 12 dpo & felt much more sane. Also, progest cream wont keep AF at bay - not enough progesterone in it, so don't worry about that. And again, not so much progesterone to really influence temps or symptoms that much. Oh god, I hope this works for you!