23/5

Jenn tagged me with this.

THE RULES:
1. Go into your archive.
2. Find your 23rd post.
3. Find the fifth sentence.
4. Post the text of the sentence in your blog along with these instructions.
5. Tag five people to do the same.

So the fifth sentence of my twenty-third post, was:

I said I wanted to schedule an IUI for the next cycle if it doesn't work this cycle, and started to figure out when the baby would be due if the IUI worked (I know, I know).

I do that every time. Don't you? I know the expected due dates of each month that we've had any chance of success. The one just passed would have been due on 23 May. What a strange numerical coincidence. I always wanted a May birthday when I was little. The ability to have a party in the garden, as my September-birthday-ed brother did, seemed exciting, almost exotic. Instead of the snow that usually marked my birthday. And it's nice and far away from any family birthdays. And it's far enough before June that it's unlikely the child would have to suffer exams on their birthday, or even if they did, they could have a great post-exam party and get lots of presents at the same time.

My fantasies really are running amok, aren't they? I know that, yet every month I do the calculation, and every month I mourn that lost birthday.

If the IVF works, the baby would be born sometime towards the end of July I think. I haven't calculated it yet (and I refuse to do so now), but it must be there or thereabouts. Kind of sucks, as everyone will be on holiday and so all their friends will forget their birthday, and it will be hard to have a party because no one will be around. Although the weather will probably be pretty good.

I said this to H a few days ago. "Whenever our baby is born," he said, "will be the perfect birthday."

How did he get to be so smart?

Trying to think about who hasn't been tagged already, I'm tagging: Reprogirl, Mellie, Millie, Megan, and Mare.

Comments

[Lori]

I always go to fertility friend to see what my potential due date would be. Every cycle. I haven't really contemplated if I thought the date would be a "good" one or not. It seems there's a drawback to just about every month or season. Being a December baby myself (and people seeming to think that's just the WORST) and it never bothering me, I figure it'll be no big deal whenever it is.
Just think if there is a July birthdate, wouldn't it be great to be on a vacation every year for your birthday?? How cool is that?

[Teresa]

A July baby would have a ruby for a birth stone... I think we all do what you do, but I always check out the birthstone and don't think so much about the birthday parties.

Rubies are soooo pretty. Best of luck!

[Nico]

I love what H said. That is just so touching!

[Meg]

I do the date thing as well in my diary. Not only that, but I obsessively count and check it over the two week wait. It's so fucked but I can't stop it.

[Cali]

Wow- I thought I was the only one that had memorized every due date possible. After an IUI I can tell you all about the possible astrological qualities of potential child...important events that happened on potential child's potential birth day. For me it is a form of information & with information there is power...right??
great post!

[elle]

Love your hubby!

[Mellie]

Thalia,
Thanks for tagging me - I've never been tagged before! And I agree with the others, H's comment was perfect and what else can we do during the 2ww but figure out when the 9 month wait will end?

[zhl]

More than calculating when my not-yet-conceived baby will be born, I calculate when is the soonest I will be able to tell people that I'm pregnant. I was really hoping to be able to announce it on Thanksgiving, then the first Christmas without my mother. Now I guess I'll just have to hope that people will be happy to hear something uplifting during the doldrums of January.

But your husband is absolutely right. Any day will be the best day.

[OvaGirl]

Any day IS best. That's a great attitude. I used to work out dates and starsigns too but that got pretty much beaten out of me. I have no idea when it might happen this time. I'm also too scared to think that far ahead...