I used to get fed up with new bloggers complaining about lack of
comments, or wondering what they needed to do to get that attention.
When I started blogging, it was about commenting. The more you
commented, the more people would see your name around, the more you got
comments back. It was an excellent example of forming those social
connections online, if you don't reach out, you don't form
relationships, they are two way.
So as I realised how much comments meant to me, I was careful to always reciprocate, to offer as much back as I got in return. Although I don't comment as much any more, I do comment as much as I can, and yet it doesn't seem to work as well any more. Perhaps it's that weakening of the glue I wrote about last week. I think it's also that I have written less, and written more posts that are really for me rather than for an audience - for example my Pob snippets, which are, although I hope mildly entertaining, mostly for me to remember what she is doing at this age - so presumably people have started to not look for my posts any more. I also probably write less well than I used to, certainly I spend less time on most posts, and I've done less research and less active thinking as part of my posting than I used to. And I've never been the kind of funny writer who draws in the crowds. But still, it's part of my heart, this blog.
Do me a favour, would you, and leave me a comment if you are still reading, if you can bear to. I'm feeling a bit disconsolate about pouring my heart out but getting much less back than I used to. I know readers fall off when the babies arrive, but quite honestly my feelings are a bit hurt by a few of the relationships that seem to have fallen by the way side. A couple of bloggers who I supported early on when they had very few readers, religiously left comments on their posts (and they on mine), are now much more established and well read, and in that process seem to have deserted me. They didn't even leave a comment when Junior was born, and we all know birth posts are easy to leave a comment on.
So well, enough moaning. I clearly still need validation. Must work on that self-realisation stuff.