The work colleague I mentioned a few weeks ago, whose twins were showing signs of Twin to Twin syndrome, had laser surgery to try to correct the problem. Six days later she went into labour and delivered her twins at 19 weeks. They lived in the world briefly, then died. She is understandably devastated. I've said the usual things but they feel so useless, don't they?
I updated because several of you asked. I wish it was better news. Thank you for thinking of her.
Oh I'm so sorry for your colleague. Just awful. The usual things need to be said - many people wont even have the courage to say them.
Posted by: Betty M | Monday, 16 March 2009 at 20:59
I'm so dreadfully sorry for her. I wish it were better news, too.
Posted by: Hairy Farmer Family | Monday, 16 March 2009 at 21:16
I'm sorry too...I kind of hope she finds the blogworld. It's helped me through a lot.
At least she has real life support out there like you. Keep talking to her.
Posted by: Aurelia | Monday, 16 March 2009 at 21:50
I am so sorry. The poor woman.
Posted by: May | Monday, 16 March 2009 at 22:08
The usual things may sound useless, but they really do help. I'm so, so sorry for her loss. Thank you for letting us know.
Posted by: Kay/H | Monday, 16 March 2009 at 22:38
Oh no, do let her know the weird people inside the computer are thinking of her - how dreadfully sad.
Posted by: Katie | Monday, 16 March 2009 at 23:13
Oh that's just awful. I'm so very, very sorry for her loss.
Posted by: Modern Millie | Monday, 16 March 2009 at 23:16
That's awful. I'm so sorry to hear of her loss.
Posted by: Sara | Monday, 16 March 2009 at 23:49
I am so sorry. There are no good words for such terrible loss.
J
Posted by: Geohde | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 00:39
Oh no. I am so sorry.
Posted by: serenity | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 01:16
this is so sad, I am so sorry for your friends loss. I hope she can find some comfort from those close to her.
Posted by: Jen | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 02:17
Oh no. That is just heartbreaking. I'm so sorry.
Posted by: Kath | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 07:19
I'm so sorry to hear that.
Posted by: Amelie | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 09:14
oh how terrible, i am so sorry.
Posted by: sarah | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 10:59
I'm so sorry, just so very sorry for your friend.
Posted by: T | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 11:35
I am so sorry for her loss.
Posted by: Orodemniades | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 11:49
How awful. I'm so sorry for your friend.
Posted by: Larisa | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 12:54
So sad. Thinking of them.
Posted by: Jenn | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 14:55
That is so very devastating. I'm so sorry for her.
Posted by: Erin | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 14:55
I am so very sory to hear this sad news. I will keep your friend in my thoughts.
Posted by: silene | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 20:57
Such horrid news.
Posted by: Lut C. | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 21:43
I am very sorry for your friend. I wish there was something to say or do for her. This is terrible.
Posted by: isabel | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 23:31
Very very sad. It's so hard to make sense of a world where things like this can happen.
Posted by: Angela | Tuesday, 17 March 2009 at 23:45
This is terrible news. I'm so sorry.
Posted by: Summer | Wednesday, 18 March 2009 at 10:39
How utterly horrible. Your poor friend.
Posted by: Clover | Wednesday, 18 March 2009 at 16:25
I'm so, so sorry to hear that. Your poor colleague. I will be thinking of her family.
Posted by: motel manager | Wednesday, 18 March 2009 at 22:42
I'm so sorry T, and so very very sorry for your friend's loss. Awful...
Posted by: Kimmer | Friday, 20 March 2009 at 02:53
I am so sorry to hear this terrible news.
Bea
Posted by: Bea | Friday, 20 March 2009 at 12:31
It never feels like the right thing, to say, and I can imagine that you felt awful for her and with her, as well as getting a dose of That Guilt, the one that we know so well.
Posted by: Helen | Sunday, 22 March 2009 at 11:15
What awful news. I will remember her in my prayers.
Posted by: midlife mommy | Saturday, 28 March 2009 at 03:45