It pays to say (or type) what you think to your doctor. In writing to Dr Candour yesterday to let him know that I didn't want to take him up on his offer of a consultation, I explained that I wanted to go for the ERPC as soon as they could confirm that things were over. He has just written back to say that he can fit me in next Monday, so he suggests I book my scan for first thing that morning, then come straight over for surgery later that day. Sounds like a deal to me. I need to check with him if being on heparin changes anything, but other than that, consider me booked in.
Just FYI, he said that the reason for their conservatism is that about six years ago in Bristol, a woman was told she had had a miscarriage. A week later things were found to be ok. The same thing then happened again with the same woman two years later. Since then "all units scanning this early have diagnosed a miscarriage over two separate scans." Seems to me I've already had the two scans, but I think because the first one did show (perhaps) a fetal pole, that it doesn't count. At least I understand the protocol now. That poor woman.
Thanks for all your comments. I actually found it harder to wake up this morning than I did to get through yesterday. It's the waking up and realising that things are just going to go on being really bad that hurt the most. I don't have the words to type about it right now, no doubt I will in due course. This is why we blog, right? Anyway, thanks again.